Slow Parenting

I read this article recently about Trying Out Slow Parenting. This article hit close to home. It made me realize that this is exactly what I do every day. I rush to try to get everything done in one day. Instead of enjoying the moment, slowing down and letting  my kids enjoy life. Accepting the fact that there is always tomorrow to do whatever doesn’t get done.
Lately, I have had the worst case of anxiety that I have ever had. To be completely honest with you, I’m all over the place. I mean I have been in this serious funk that I can not seem to get out of. I have been trying to figure out ways to manage my time better with business, being a mom of two and a attentive wife as well. It’s hard working from home and actually getting work done. Sometimes I want to stay in bed because I feel utterly overwhelmed on what I need to get done for the day and how I am going to complete it all. I go through my normal routine 5:30-6am wake up with Joe. Yes, I am still that wife who makes him his breakfast (egg sandwiches), coffee and lunch for work. Before anything else I make sure I pour a large cup of coffee then move on- pump for Jax, nurse Jax, change Jax, feed Hailey and potty train Hailey in between the mix, glance at my emails while Hailey eats and respond but that usually takes all day. Editing, I attempt to do when I have Hailey napping. I usually can multi task with Jax awake. Then dinner time with the family, baths and squeeze some quiet time in with Joe before I go back editing or pass out on the couch. Then Repeat.
This article made me realize that the small things in life aren’t finishing the laundry or rushing through Hailey from playing. It’s managing time for what we have in front of us. Spending more family time together. My children mean everything to me. And when Hailey closes my laptop and tells me to stop working so we can color, paint her nails or play outside it breaks my heart that I am working and not paying attention to her. Then I get mad because I couldn’t finish a simple task like an email. Work will come but I need to keep work separate from family time. The last thing I want is for my kids to remember Mom being a hot mess all the time and grouchy. I want to be the free spirited woman I was before. The whateva kinda gal. Let it go gal. The only live once gal.
This month I told myself I am going live life through my kids and slow down. Not over schedule our lives and block off times for family and for business.  I have always been the type of person to be on the go and always have to be doing something. I don’t like to feel rushed and want my children to have an enjoyable childhood. Soon these days won’t be here. Joe always reminds me that you don’t know what tomorrow will bring and to enjoy today. Enjoy what we have because theft is the world is a scary place. Have you seen the news lately? Soon I won’t have Hailey hugging my side or wanting to lay near me and Jax will only be this small for so long. I am challenging myself as well as other moms and mompreneurs out there to slow down too. Take in the simplest of tasks. Go for long slow walks and not rush, let the kids enjoy bath time even if it takes an hour long, build puzzles together, don’t multitask. Breathe. Maybe some me time in there.  This one is going to be hard for me. Guess I should lay off the caffeine too, huh? No not really! I couldn’t. Better yet through in a run or some exercise in this all.
I know life isn’t perfect and a lot goes hand in hand being entrepreneurs.
Life is precious and always fast paced. So here’s so slowing down and building a family lifestyle with quality.
Happy weekend my friends! We are off to enjoy this long weekend and heading to the fair.
slowdownThis morning Hailey wanted to hold Jax. She held his hand while singing an Ariel song to him. These are the moments I skip by because I am not slowing down.
 

Meet My Family.

My Mom has wanted us to update our family portraits for sometime now, probably over 8 years. Opps! Now with our expanding family we have a bunch of grandkids to add to the mix. Finally were able to schedule a date that worked for all of us. We packed up some snacks, beverages and headed to Watch Hill. It was a nice night with the sun setting, The Ocean House behind us and the sound of the waves rolling in. The perfect back drop of us.
Of course being the control freak photographer that I am I set up the self timer and ran back and forth to do our group portraits. As people watched around us and saw me running back and forth probably thought it was comical but it only took 4 times to get everyone looking and smiling in the same direction! I would click the button, run to position, adjust my hair, bend the leg and smile- Bam! Hoped that one worked out. Repeat.  I had all these expectations of getting couple shots, kid shots and as many combos as I could of all of us. I should have listened to what I tell my clients set your expectations low and lets see what we can get. Let the kids be kids and have fun. Being in the moment while capturing those candid shots are more memorable then the ones when we are all standing there smiling. With the kiddos being toddlers and some babies the last thing they want to do is sit and smile when they could be splashing in the water, playing in the sand. I don’t blame them. Needless to say we all had some fun and a few stories to tell about the police (No know of us got into trouble!) cough cough… Mandy! 😉
Meet my crazy growing family.
My parents who are always there for us and put up with a lot of my craziness and spontaneous decisions in life. 😉
MyFamilyBlog_01MyFamilyBlog_02MyFamilyBlog_03See not bad for a self timer portrait of all of us with me running back and forth. Boy was that a workout since I haven’t ran before I was pregnant with Jax.
MyFamilyBlog_05MyFamilyBlog_04copyThis is my sister Stephanie with her beautiful family!MyFamilyBlog_06MyFamilyBlog_07MyFamilyBlog_08This is my brother and his gorgeous family. Remember my niece Lily? Look how big she is getting now. Can you believe she is in kindergarten now?!MyFamilyBlog_15MyFamilyBlog_16I love this shot of James and Quin together.MyFamilyBlog_17My nephew Quin. He is such a cutie and one happy little guy!MyFamilyBlog_14MyFamilyBlog_18My little family. Jax looks likes he is fist pumping in the air!! MyFamilyBlog_10Hailey and the faces she makes!
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MyFamilyBlog_12MyFamilyBlog_13My parents with all their grand children. MyFamilyBlog_21Then after us all trying to pull more of the posed stuff together we said heck with it. Be in the moment!MyFamilyBlog_19MyFamilyBlog_20It was an eventful night together as a family. Glad we did this. At least we have another 8 more years to do another! HAHA Joking Mom and Dad. MyFamilyBlog_22